Hollywood is a place where usually marriages last not more than a few years, and divorce rates are higher than a celebrity wedding cake; so it’s always nice to hear about couples who take relationships and marriages really seriously. Kristen Bell, the star of critic’s favourite The Good Place, is one of those perfect humans who strive to do all they can to make their marriage last.
The couple have been open champions of couples therapy, sharing their experience and extoiling the benefits. “Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about,” says Kristen said. She and Dax began therapy not long after they began dating instead of waiting for things to go south and running the risk it would be too late to save their relationship. “In my previous relationship, we went to couples therapy at the end, and that’s often too late,” Dax said. “I just kept going back to ‘This person has the thing I want, and I have to figure out how we can exist peacefully.’ So we started seeing a therapist together right away.”
They tied the knot in 2013 in a low-key ceremony after more than six years of relationship (they waited for marriage equality to become legal in the US), and still look pretty much in love and happy together. In case you’re curious what are the secrets of their marital bliss, Bell was super honest these days and shared a list she wrote for a pair of engaged friends in which she discloses what keeps her marriage so healthy. Unsurprisingly, it’s totally simple, pure and honest:
According to Bell the most important thing in a relationship or marriage is staying vulnerable with each other because this always begets intimacy and connection. She says necessary separateness is okay and most of the times it makes a marriage even stronger. The other important aspect is allowing your significant other to have their own individual interest. And of course the fundamental truth is that the most powerful loving thing is to love someone despite all their faults, failings, or character defects.
If this won’t make you believe in ‘forever till death do us part’, we don’t know what will.